I SNOOPED ON MY HUSBAND'S SEX SECRETS: ROWAN PELLING'S SEX COLUMN

Rowan Pelling gives advice on what to do if you find out your partner is secretly not happy with your sex life. Pictured: Stock image

QUESTION: My husband and I met two years ago and I thought we had great relationship. But last weekend I was alone and discovered his diary. I was shocked to find he writes about our love life in detail and is sometimes critical of ‘dull’ sex. Should I confront him?

Answer: It’s hard to decide just  who’s the worst behaved here: your graceless man for writing about your sexual encounters or you for reading his private diary. 

You are quite old enough to know that no good ever comes of reading someone else’s journal and, indeed, that it’s a breach of trust. 

If you confront your man about the diary, he may never trust you again. I mean, where will your snooping end? How would you feel if he read your texts?  Let’s have some mutual honesty here. Has there never been one occasion when you   thought sex was a bit below par?

RELATIONSHIP: CAN A MARRIED MAN/WOMAN FALL IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN/MAN? HAS IT HAPPENED WITH SOMEONE?

Yes, it can & Does.

I know this because I am a man that has fallen in love with a married woman, she also has fallen in love with me. Before any of you say, why did you do that, you're wrong for doing it, blah, blah, blah.... I know this, WE know this! We know & understand what we have done, but now it's too late.

It's way too hard for either one of us to walk away now. She won't leave her husband either, unfortunately, she also loves him. And until your in our shoes, and understand our feelings for each other, you can't just tell us to do it!

45 THINGS A GIRL WANT, BUT WON'T ASK FOR

1. Touch her waist.

2. Actually talk to her.

3. Share secrets with her.

4. Give her your jacket. 5.Kiss her slowly.

Are you remembering this?

6. Hug her.

7. Hold her.

8. Laugh with her.

9. Invite her somewhere.

10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

11. Smile with her.

12. Take pictures with her.

13. Pull her onto your lap.

14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.

15. When her friends say “I love her more than you”, deny it. Fight

back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friends. It makes her

feel loved.

Are you thinking of someone?

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.

17. Kiss her unexpectedly.

18. Hug her from behind around the waist.

19. Tell her she’s beautiful.

20. Tell her the way you feel about her. One last thing you need to do to

show her you actually do mean it.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car - it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.

22. Tell her she’s your everything - only if you mean it.

23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her - if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT - so just hug her.

24. Make her feel loved.

25. Kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know! WE MIGHT DENY IT BUT WE ACTUALLY LIKE AND KINDA WANT YOU TO TICKLE US....

26. Don’t lie to her.

27. DON’T cheat on her.

28. Take her ANYWHERE she wants.

29. Text message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good

day at school, and how much you miss her.

30. Be there for her whenever she needs you, and even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she’ll know that she can always count on you.

ARE YOU STILL READING THIS? YOU BETTER, BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT.

31. Hold her close when she’s cold so she can hold you too.

32. When you are alone hold her close and kiss her.

33. Kiss her on the cheek; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).

34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will

automatically put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her lightly.

35. Don’t ever tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you’re mad. If

she’s upset, comfort her.

REMEMBER ALL THESE THINGS WHEN YOU ARE WITH HER NEXT ..

36. When people diss her, stand up for her.

37. Look deep into her eyes and tell her you love her.

38. Lay down under the stars and put her head on your chest so she

can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to

you.

39. When walking next to each other grab her hand.

40. When you hug her, hold her in your arms as long as possible.

MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHES LOVED.

41. Call or text her at night to wish her sweet dreams.

42. Comfort her when she cries and wipe away her tears.

43. Take her for long walks at night.

44. Always remind her how much you love her.

45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much you love her and then

bend down to her face and kiss her while you’re sitting on her.

You’ll never know when she needs just a little more love ..